Dysfunctional Family Traits
Dysfunctional Family Traits
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In order to be fully functional, each human being needs to express freely the five basic powers that constitute human strength. These are: the power to perceive; to think and interpret; to emote; to choose, want, and desire; and to be creative through the use of imagination.
(Bradshaw, 1988, p. 58)
Bradshaw, J. (1988). Bradshaw on: The family – A revolutionary way of self-discovery. Deerfield Beach, Florida: Health Communications.
Five Freedoms Expressed
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Bradshaw, J. (1988). Bradshaw on: The family – A revolutionary way of self-discovery. Deerfield Beach, Florida: Health Communications.
Functional Family Traits
The marriage, as the chief component of the family, needs to be in the process of becoming intimate. This process goes through the stages of: in love; working out differences, compromise, and individualization; and plateau intimacy.
(Bradshaw, 1988, p. 58)
Bradshaw, J. (1988). Bradshaw on: The family – A revolutionary way of self-discovery. Deerfield Beach, Florida: Health Communications.
Unfolding Process of Intimacy
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Bradshaw, J. (1988). Bradshaw on: The family – A revolutionary way of self-discovery. Deerfield Beach, Florida: Health Communications.
Functional Family Traits
Negotiating differences is the crucial task in the process of intimacy formation. To negotiate differences there must be the desire to cooperate. This desire creates the willingness to fight fair.
(Bradshaw, 1988, p. 58)
Bradshaw, J. (1988). Bradshaw on: The family – A revolutionary way of self-discovery. Deerfield Beach, Florida: Health Communications.
Negotiated Differences
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Functional Family Traits
C. Clear and Consistent Communication – Clear and consistent communication are keys to establishing separateness and intimacy – clear communication demands awareness of self and the other, as well as mutual respect for each others dignity. (Bradshaw, 1988, p. 58)
Bradshaw, J. (1988). Bradshaw on: The family – A revolutionary way of self-discovery. Deerfield Beach, Florida: Health Communications.
Bradshaw, J. (1988). Bradshaw on: The family – A revolutionary way of self-discovery. Deerfield Beach, Florida: Health Communications.
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Functional Family Traits
T. Trusting – Trust is created by honesty. Accurate expression of emotions, thoughts, and desires is more important than agreement. Honesty is self-responsible and avoids shaming.
I. Individuality – In functional families differences are encouraged. The uniqueness and unrepeatability of each person is the number one priority in a functional family.
(Bradshaw, 1988, p. 58)
Bradshaw, J. (1988). Bradshaw on: The family – A revolutionary way of self-discovery. Deerfield Beach, Florida: Health Communications.
Bradshaw, J. (1988). Bradshaw on: The family – A revolutionary way of self-discovery. Deerfield Beach, Florida: Health Communications.
Functional Family Traits
O. Open and Flexible – In a functional family the roles are open and flexible. One can be spontaneous without fear of shame and judgment.
N. Needs Fulfilled – Happy people are people who are getting their needs met. A functional family allows all of its members to get their needs fulfilled. (Bradshaw, 1988, p. 58)
Bradshaw, J. (1988). Bradshaw on: The family – A revolutionary way of self-discovery. Deerfield Beach, Florida: Health Communications.
Bradshaw, J. (1988). Bradshaw on: The family – A revolutionary way of self-discovery. Deerfield Beach, Florida: Health Communications.
Functional Family Traits
A. Accountability – Functional families are accountable. They are willing to acknowledge individual problems, as well as family problems. They will work to resolve those problems.
L. Laws are Open and Flexible – The laws in functional families will allow for mistakes. They can and are negotiable. (Bradshaw, 1988, p. 59)
Bradshaw, J. (1988). Bradshaw on: The family – A revolutionary way of self-discovery. Deerfield Beach, Florida: Health Communications.
Bradshaw, J. (1988). Bradshaw on: The family – A revolutionary way of self-discovery. Deerfield Beach, Florida: Health Communications.
Good Functional Rules
Functional family rules can be summed up as follows:
Bradshaw, J. (1988). Bradshaw on: The family – A revolutionary way of self-discovery. Deerfield Beach, Florida: Health Communications.
(Bradshaw, 1988, p. 54)
| 1 | Problems are acknowledged and resolved. |
| 2 | The five freedoms are promoted. All members can express their perception, feelings, thoughts, desires, and fantasies. |
| 3 | All relationships are dialogical and equal. Each person is of equal value as a person. |
| 4 | Communication is direct, congruent and sensory based, i.e., concrete, specific, and behavioral. |
| 5 | Family members can get their needs met. |
| 6 | Family members can be different. |
| 7 | Parents do what they say. They are self-disciplined disciplinarians. |
Bradshaw, J. (1988). Bradshaw on: The family – A revolutionary way of self-discovery. Deerfield Beach, Florida: Health Communications.
Good Functional Rules
Functional family rules can be summed up as follows:
Bradshaw, J. (1988). Bradshaw on: The family – A revolutionary way of self-discovery. Deerfield Beach, Florida: Health Communications.
(Bradshaw, 1988, p. 55)
| 8 | Family roles are chosen and flexible. |
| 9 | Atmosphere is fun and spontaneous. |
| 10 | The rules require accountability. |
| 11 | Violation of other’s values leads to guilt. |
| 12 | Mistakes are forgiven and viewed as learning tools. |
| 13 | The family system exists for the individuals. |
| 14 | Parents are in touch with their healthy shame. |
Bradshaw, J. (1988). Bradshaw on: The family – A revolutionary way of self-discovery. Deerfield Beach, Florida: Health Communications.
Dysfunctional Family Traits
Dysfunctional families deny their problems. Hence the problems never get solved. Such families also deny members the five freedoms.
(Bradshaw, 1988, p. 84)
Bradshaw, J. (1988). Bradshaw on: The family – A revolutionary way of self-discovery. Deerfield Beach, Florida: Health Communications.
